Rules to successful dating

18-Apr-2015 20:28 by 7 Comments

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They don’t need your pity and it can come across as condescending.

You value attention that you have to fight and perform for.

Someone isn’t going to fall out of the sky in the supermarket car park, or on the dairy aisle, or between your car and your front door, and while you might meet someone at the gym or at work, you’re not being proactive enough. Sometimes you’ll have to drag yourself out when all you feel like is curling up in a ball and going to sleep. Anything that you’re expecting from dates are things that you yourself should possess. When you go on that first, second, or third date, just focus on experiencing the date. There is no need to be putting your name with their surname, imagining them on holiday, trying to work out if you can marry them, and basically galloping too far into the future. Of course once you are dating someone, be careful of anyone who is afraid to even think ahead to the following day. You don’t need a Future Faker or somebody who is future avoidant. Don’t be too quick to write somebody off especially if you tend to judge books by their cover or are inclined to judge based on whether you get ‘sparks’.

You’re just hoping fate bites you in the bum without you having to get uncomfortable. Yes the date might not end up being that great, but by the same token, it may well be. This will stop you from looking to others to fill voids. Don’t do ‘The Reach’ on dates which is where you offer to pay and make like you’re reaching for your wallet/purse but have no genuine intentions of paying. Ask questions, listen and even more importantly, pay attention to see if they’re living in line with their values. Remember those people who are rude to staff or even you on dates? Unless something disastrous happens or it’s very tense on the date, the likelihood is that while some of you may hit it off on the first date, it often takes two or three dates to get a sense of whether you’re really interested and to even form an initial impression of who someone is. But be careful of trying to ‘force’ you to like someone just because you think that you ‘should’.

Example: They’re stalking you and anyone you date, you have a child together etc. As dating is a discovery phase where you should be aware of things that potentially signal a relationship not happening, turning a blind eye to what may be code amber and code red stuff is not in your interests. Remember to act like you’re worthy and in the same league.

You’re supposed to be getting to know each other and if you talk about your exes you may actually end up communicating that you’re still emotionally invested. Don’t start acting like you’re in a relationship when you’re are to do this. Do not put people on a pedestal because the only place for them to look at you is from above, which means you are beneath them.

Make sure that there is plenty of human-to-human contact and that you’re not predominantly relying on words. Am I able to be myself and love and live with my boundaries?

You need to have a positive answer to this question if you’re thinking about going from dating to being in a relationship with someone.

If you want to be with somebody who treats and regards you with love, care, trust, and respect, make sure that you also do these for you. Get rid of anyone who only communicates with you via text message. You’d be surprised how many people get asked out by attached people! Somewhere between date one and three, you need to clarify that the person is single and that they are not married, with somebody, living with an ex, just separated, long-term separated etc.

If you don’t know the answer to these questions, as in you have and clarified, or you are afraid to ask, do not pass GO.

It’s very insincere behaviour made even worse if you are going to judge the other party if they accept your offer. Someone could be The Nicest Person In The Universe TM but if you have little in common on both the interests and core values front, that is OK.

If you don’t believe in paying on the first date, don’t reach. The only way you can discover if someone shares the same values as you is by spending the time and getting to know them. You don’t have to be with someone just because you think they’re really nice.

All that someone who you feel a physical/sexual attraction to when you know nothing about their character or suitability tells you is that you are horny based on their appearance and the illusion of what they they have sex with you. Never date until you have reduced your baggage to hand luggage. Getting out there and meeting people like they used to do in ‘olden times’ (the time before t’internet), is still the most effective way. In fact, you have no real reason to talk about your ex on the first few dates.

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