Dating site for intelligent people
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This is the tendency for unusually smart people to have very LOW levels of social skills or confidence.
Here’s Why Some psychologists have called the mind a “simulation machine.” Your mind is designed to remember the past or simulate the future to help you survive in life.
Like looking for a fool proof conversation starter that will work every time in any situation. It’s because being social and contributing to a conversation is not a problem to be solved by thinking.
It’s more about an energetic and spontaneous expression of how you’re feeling.
If you can imagine yourself dying after walking off the 10th storey of a building, you probably won’t step off the edge, will you?
Well, smart people take this FUTURE SIMULATING and RISK AVOIDING nature of the brain way too far sometimes. By coming up with all of the reasons why everything WON’T WORK when it comes to social situations.
The biggest lesson I learned from those classes was to rely more on speaking from my GUT feeling and instinct instead of trying to carefully plan and think through everything I said.
Most shy and socially anxious people are the exact opposite of “spontaneous.” If you can’t think of what to say, you probably go on thinking and thinking and thinking.
Sure, there’s some basic training you NEED to go through, but to go from being bad to good in a skill… Yet there’s a lot of socially inept people who don’t treat social skills in this way. You get better by doing, by practicing at least a few times a week.
Instead they look for the one last magic piece of information that will solve all their problems. Do you ever notice how so many people out there who are extremely confident and socialize effortlessly also happen to be… And the people who are really smart may be unsure of what to say, or afraid of opening their mouth to make a fool of themselves. Let’s think about this: Why can people who SUCK at thinking, reasoning and logic… And why do you find it so difficult to make conversation confidently when you probably “deserve” to do so more than those idiots?
Maybe you excelled in school or you couldn’t understand why all your classmates were only interested in pop music and celebrities…
when you mostly cared more about exploring the world deeply with your mind.
all thanks to your smart mind which has made you see all the “risks.” Now, if you’ve thought something through and come up with a good reason why it would fail, it makes sense to not do it, right?